People lie. All people. What is the most frequent lie I believe people tell? I think they are the phrases, "I'm/It's okay/fine." When I am feeling the worst is when I answer "How are you?" with "I'm fine." When my feelings are hurt by something or someone is when I say "It's okay." The second most frequent lie is the word whatever... This word ends conversations when there is really hundreds more words that are just below the surface. It takes all emotion out of the interaction. It is also rude, and untrue most of the time.
What does this have to do with anything? Well, first I believe honesty is important and will save a lot of drama. But more than that right now it has to do with openness and connectedness. Romans 12: 15 says, "Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep." If I am constantly hiding behind the mask of "I'm okay," I cannot let people connect with me. I have in effect closed myself off to the world around me. I exist only at a surface level and no one gets to see who I am. I feel like it is safer to hide and not let anyone know that I am hurting. Yes, it may be "easier" but when was easier really ever worth it in the long run?
So does this mean you won't be using okay, fine or whatever anymore?
ReplyDeleteI am not sure what it means. I think it should mean that I stop hiding behind those words and start being more honest when I am not okay, if that makes sense.
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